Rugeley Counselling, Life Coaching, and Clinical Supervision in Staffordshire,Face-to-Face, by phone and on-line
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It is my deeply felt belief that we all have an essential drive towards growth, good communications and self-confidence. Counselling can help us develop this in our relationships, our work and in our life."
There are some areas of our lives that we know we would like to improve but no matter how we try, we seem to go round in circles. Talking it through and discover how we can make some small or significant changes can lead to a much happier, more balanced and satisfying way of life.
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Counselling
Counselling provides people with an opportunity to talk to someone outside their circle of immediate family and friends.Certain situations and difficulties are tough to deal with on your own and never mind how helpful family and friends are, it is not working for you. People often describe it as 'going round in circles'. . . . .Read more
A counsellor has time to listen to your story, your side of things without judging you. As one client put it: "It was so good that I could pour out how I felt."
Some examples of why people seek counselling (please click on any for further information):
For exploring any of the above, I provide an environment where we can work on building a confidential, non judgemental, trusting relationship. I support you as you move through the stages where you create your own chosen path to make changes in your behaviour, where you discover strengths in yourself you never knew you possessed.
Remember: when you come for counselling, it is like starting a journey where you are the driver and I am the map reader. You can decide how long the journey will be and how often we will travel. You can make choices where to go, to follow my directions and suggestions or not, and at times you may decide to slow down, to reflect, pause or stop, decide that a different road suits you better. You may ask me to leave the car and go your own way. The choice is yours! However, the most effective journey is where we plan and travel together.
- Abuse Anger, Depression
- Anxiety, Low-Confidence and Stress
- Bereavement
- Couple Counselling
- Family Issues
- Loss, Crisis and Trauma
- Relationship Difficulties
Counselling offers the opportunity to recognise and better manage or reconcile troublesome differences and repeating patterns of distress. We often think of relationship counselling as couple counselling but The relationship involved may be between members of a family or a couple as well as between employees or employers in a workplace, or between a professional and a client.
There are many ways to abuse. To expect too much, to denigrate, to ignore - are all modes of abuse. There is physical abuse, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse. It maintains power and control of one person over another. increasingly people suffer from ciber bullying, a form of abuse that is difficult to deal with because there is no face-to-face abuser and even if we know the abuser, we feel helpless.
We often find it difficult to open up about abuse. We blame ourselves, we allow ourselves to be manipulated, we lose confidence. Many people who are being abused suffer in silence and in fear.
Speaking in confidence to a counsellor is often helpful. There is help available and either the counsellor will provide you with techniques to deal with abusive behaviour or refer you to organisations that can help you.
Anger is a basic emotion, often brought about by frustration. Anger is a healthy emotion as long as we know how to manage it. Anger can be destructive when it is out of control and turns to aggression. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can help people to manage their anger, to make changes so they express anger in the correct way and have their needs met.
Depression is a common condition that will affect one in three people at some time in their life. It is a complicated illness with many different symptoms and causes. It is often an interaction of genetic factors, body chemistry and life events. It spans from levels of feeling down to severe or clinical depression.
If a low mood has lasted for more than two weeks or is starting to interfere with your life it may be time to seek help. Unfortunately, even in today's society, there is a fear of mental illness, of being seen as a 'nutter' and therefore many people suffer with depression in silence, believing that by pushing the emotions aside, they will go away..
The earlier help is sought for depression the better. Counselling is effective in treating mild to moderate depression, and is often combined with medication in more severe cases, which is sometimes known as clinical depression. I always recommend a visit to your GP as a first point of call but if that is not the way you like to go, please seek help from a professional who will help you to get back on track.
Many people with low self-confidence aspire to be more self-confident, and the good news is that self-confidence is a skill that can often be developed. It is important to note, however, that the more pressure you (or others) put on yourself to live up to certain expectations, the more this could lead to anxiety and bruise confidence, so developing self-confidence at the right pace for you is important
Counselling and hypnotherapy are common therapies used to help those suffering with low self-confidence. Techniques and strategies can be developed to build your self confidence and change current negative thinking
Anxiety and stress are very much part of today's society and can be very uncomfortable. The first thing to do is to visit your GP and ask for advice. Counselling, particularly Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, often together with relaxation techniques and/or hypnotherapy, is for many people very effective.
Living with bereavement is the hardest challenge life can throw at us and it is never by our choosing, but we have to learn how to cope with loss, a challenge none of us want to face.
As a counsellor, I provide a supportive environment for a bereaved person to talk and express feelings that they may find difficult to express among family or friends from fear of upsetting others also suffering from the pain of loss
Healthy intimate relationships rely on communication skills and the ability to adapt to change while remaining connected to your partner.
We often find it difficult to open up about abuse. We blame ourselves, we allow ourselves to be manipulated, we lose confidence. Many people who are being abused suffer in silence and in fear.
Speaking in confidence to a counsellor is often helpful. There is help available and either the counsellor will provide you with techniques to deal with abusive behaviour or refer you to organisations that can help you.
Anger is a basic emotion, often brought about by frustration. Anger is a healthy emotion as long as we know how to manage it. Anger can be destructive when it is out of control and turns to aggression. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy can help people to manage their anger, to make changes so they express anger in the correct way and have their needs met.
Depression is a common condition that will affect one in three people at some time in their life. It is a complicated illness with many different symptoms and causes. It is often an interaction of genetic factors, body chemistry and life events. It spans from levels of feeling down to severe or clinical depression.
If a low mood has lasted for more than two weeks or is starting to interfere with your life it may be time to seek help. Unfortunately, even in today's society, there is a fear of mental illness, of being seen as a 'nutter' and therefore many people suffer with depression in silence, believing that by pushing the emotions aside, they will go away..
The earlier help is sought for depression the better. Counselling is effective in treating mild to moderate depression, and is often combined with medication in more severe cases, which is sometimes known as clinical depression. I always recommend a visit to your GP as a first point of call but if that is not the way you like to go, please seek help from a professional who will help you to get back on track.
Many people with low self-confidence aspire to be more self-confident, and the good news is that self-confidence is a skill that can often be developed. It is important to note, however, that the more pressure you (or others) put on yourself to live up to certain expectations, the more this could lead to anxiety and bruise confidence, so developing self-confidence at the right pace for you is important
Counselling and hypnotherapy are common therapies used to help those suffering with low self-confidence. Techniques and strategies can be developed to build your self confidence and change current negative thinking
Anxiety and stress are very much part of today's society and can be very uncomfortable. The first thing to do is to visit your GP and ask for advice. Counselling, particularly Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, often together with relaxation techniques and/or hypnotherapy, is for many people very effective.
Living with bereavement is the hardest challenge life can throw at us and it is never by our choosing, but we have to learn how to cope with loss, a challenge none of us want to face.
As a counsellor, I provide a supportive environment for a bereaved person to talk and express feelings that they may find difficult to express among family or friends from fear of upsetting others also suffering from the pain of loss
Healthy intimate relationships rely on communication skills and the ability to adapt to change while remaining connected to your partner.
I offer you a safe environment where you may find it easier to talk to each other, where you will receive guidance to develop skills needed to commit and communicate more effectively.
Where you have reached a point where you feel the relationship has ended, counselling will explore with you, either as a couple or individually, how you can manage separation constructively, how to breach the news to the children and how to support them. Counselling can help you explore ways of dealing with life after the divorce
behaviour, starting school, going up to high school, letting our children go, "empty nest" syndrome
Throughout life we experience loss. It begins with the loss of our perfect oneness with another person at the moment of our birth and ends with the loss of our own life. In between, humans suffer every kind and degree of loss, such as losses of a parent, loss of one's child, loss of one's childhood, of one's innocence, or losses of health, sight, freedom, safety, money, employment, home, friends. There is the loss of a spouse or life partner to death, divorce or separation. Times of emotional crisis and upset often involve some kind of loss.
The single most important factor in healing from loss is having the support of other people. There are times that we decide that professional help is needed. Counselling provides you with a listening ear and supports you while working through these intense emotions. There will be options open to you to choose from to help you overcome obstacles to accept and adjust to loss.
Being involved in a traumatic event can be very frightening and it is not surprising that most people will be upset for a few days afterwards. After a trauma, people may go though a wide range of physical and emotional responses.
Such reactions may be experienced not only by people who experienced the trauma first-hand, but by those who have witnessed or heard about the trauma, or been involved with those immediately affected. Many reactions can be triggered by persons, places, or things associated with the trauma. Some reactions may appear totally unrelated.
Where you have reached a point where you feel the relationship has ended, counselling will explore with you, either as a couple or individually, how you can manage separation constructively, how to breach the news to the children and how to support them. Counselling can help you explore ways of dealing with life after the divorce
behaviour, starting school, going up to high school, letting our children go, "empty nest" syndrome
Throughout life we experience loss. It begins with the loss of our perfect oneness with another person at the moment of our birth and ends with the loss of our own life. In between, humans suffer every kind and degree of loss, such as losses of a parent, loss of one's child, loss of one's childhood, of one's innocence, or losses of health, sight, freedom, safety, money, employment, home, friends. There is the loss of a spouse or life partner to death, divorce or separation. Times of emotional crisis and upset often involve some kind of loss.
The single most important factor in healing from loss is having the support of other people. There are times that we decide that professional help is needed. Counselling provides you with a listening ear and supports you while working through these intense emotions. There will be options open to you to choose from to help you overcome obstacles to accept and adjust to loss.
Being involved in a traumatic event can be very frightening and it is not surprising that most people will be upset for a few days afterwards. After a trauma, people may go though a wide range of physical and emotional responses.
Such reactions may be experienced not only by people who experienced the trauma first-hand, but by those who have witnessed or heard about the trauma, or been involved with those immediately affected. Many reactions can be triggered by persons, places, or things associated with the trauma. Some reactions may appear totally unrelated.
Read on . . . .Specialised therapeutic techniques have been developed which have the potential to change your life, even when you have deep and persistent problems. This includes the practice of counselling and psychotherapy, the intervention of a human being who has the specialised knowledge, training, skill and experience to help.
The assistance of a professional can help you identify your needs, enabling you to deal with them faster and more reliably through such techniques.
If you needed an antibiotic for an infection, you wouldn’t hesitate to go to your doctor for the right treatment. Why deny yourself proper care for your emotional health?
Counselling makes you aware of yourself: Throughout the sessions, the focus is on you, acknowledging your feelings, experience and behaviour. You are given techniques to develop healthy decision making skills. As a counsellor I will challenge and confront you sometimes to motivate you to take appropriate action. If you put in the work and take on the challenge, counselling can help you feeling more fulfilled and in charge of yourself, personally as well as socially.
The assistance of a professional can help you identify your needs, enabling you to deal with them faster and more reliably through such techniques.
If you needed an antibiotic for an infection, you wouldn’t hesitate to go to your doctor for the right treatment. Why deny yourself proper care for your emotional health?
Counselling makes you aware of yourself: Throughout the sessions, the focus is on you, acknowledging your feelings, experience and behaviour. You are given techniques to develop healthy decision making skills. As a counsellor I will challenge and confront you sometimes to motivate you to take appropriate action. If you put in the work and take on the challenge, counselling can help you feeling more fulfilled and in charge of yourself, personally as well as socially.